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Life can be a lot richer.

Imagine you had been seeing the world in black and white your whole life. Then, one morning, you wake up and suddenly see all the rainbow colors.

What an incredible revelation that would be! Life would feel richer and more vibrant, and everything you did would take on a new and more profound quality.

There’s more to you than meets the eye.

Therapy can be like that.

You go through your life thinking you’re one person. But then life happens, and – sometimes for mysterious reasons – you wind up feeling, thinking, or behaving in surprising ways.

And when we dig in together, you might discover that many of the things you thought were true about yourself are much more nuanced than you gave them credit for.

Don’t be scared.

Digging deeper might sound a little scary, but I have experienced and seen in my clients that people’s lives feel much richer and more satisfying when they have access to all these different facets and layers of themselves. That routine that many of us get stuck in takes on new dimensions when we access these disowned parts of ourselves.

There’s nothing wrong with you.

For good reason, you usually disown these parts of yourself – they didn’t fit well in the environment in which you grew up and developed. That could have been because of dynamics in your family of origin, adverse conditions in your school and social settings, broader factors in the culture at large, or traumatic experiences that left a profound impact.

Whatever the causes, pushing these parts away and out of awareness was the best solution at the time.

But even though it served in the past to train your mind to ignore these parts of you, they remain. Not just parts of you, but often essential parts of you that have come to operate in the background, producing an unconscious tug-of-war between profound but neglected core needs, on the one hand, and the habits of attention that developed to keep you physically and emotionally safe on the other.

Let me help.

However unmanageable what you are experiencing now is, I can guarantee you that it is an essential part of yourself trying to reach your awareness. And you have a choice. You can continue to ignore it as that part searches for ever more effective – and potentially destructive – ways of getting your attention. Or you can – with my help – turn toward it and engage consciously with it in a controlled way.

Together, we can befriend this part of you – gently, kindly, with understanding and compassion. Making friends with this part will allow us to understand more deeply what it asks of you and then work together to develop constructive ways of meeting those needs.

And as we do that, you might notice that you start to see a lot more color in your life!